My “Bossfriend” as I call her, Shardae (Shardaisy.com ) is inspired by Fashion Icon Sophia Amoruso and listens to her podcasts for motivation. She recently gave me the book Girl Boss and the advice in it spoke to me way more than I thought it would (considering I’m not as stylish as her). Amoruso is the creator and CEO of NastyGal a website we all know and love. Her book talks about her life and the lessons she’s learned along the way. Everything in her book is helpful but the following lessons are the ones that resonated with me the most.
If you believe that what you are doing will have positive results then it will (even if that’s not immediately obvious).
This was stated early on in the book and was my “eureka moment.” Positive results do not always mean money or fame; it could mean a lesson or a connection. I realized that if I changed my definition of positive then unpredicted outcomes would be less disappointing.
Focus on what YOU ARE DOING.
This is probably the hardest thing to do but it is the most necessary. Time you spend worrying about other people is time that you aren’t working on you and your dreams. There’s no reason why we all can’t be successful and if someone doesn’t feel the same, they don’t need to be in your life.
Money shouldn’t be your end goal.
I know this is like “What??”, I definitely didn’t agree with this statement initially but the more I thought about it I realized that if you’re working for money your actions aren’t structured to learn lessons or be creative. If you are working hard money will come, it’s not something that’s worth planning your life around.
Money looks better in the bank than on your feet. Need I say more?
When your goal is to gain experience, perspective, and knowledge, failure is not an option.
(Again I think this one explains its self.)
YOU BELONG ANYWHERE YOU WANT TO BE.
Anywhere. Do you hear me? Don’t let anyone tell you different.
You don’t have to choose between “corporate and creative”
In high school, I loved to dance more than anything. When I got to college I quit because I wanted a career where I would make money and I didn’t think chasing my dance dreams would pay off. Consequently, I cut my only creative outlet out of my life and I spent years struggling to find something I enjoyed that wasn’t psychology related. Enter PrettyGirlInCollege.com
Someone has to succeed so it might as well be you.
You can do it! Whatever it is. The only person standing in your way is you.
I have a hard time admitting this but I care a lot about what people think of me. I am also quick to give up on something because I feel like I’m not good enough. Sophia Amoruso showed me that everyone has these feelings and combatting them is just a part of life. These are all things that I am constantly working to change and this book gave me the confirmation I needed to continue chasing my dreams.